Questions to ask when choosing new therapist
Finding the right therapist for you is the most important first step in your healing journey. And I know this step can feel daunting, intimidating, and even overwhelming. So first, I’d like to congratulate you on taking that first step- even if for now, it’s just about reading this post!
Many therapists, including myself, offer a free initial consultation to help determine if we’re a “good fit” for working together. And for me, as a therapist, that means getting an initial sense that I can confidently, adequately and ethically support your needs. For you as a client, a good fit might be determined based on your values, interests, and needs. OR it might just be a feeling and intuitive sense that “it just feels right”. You can trust yourself!! (If this sounds scary or generates doubt— I’d love to work with you!)
If you’re worried about “not knowing” or wondering what to ask or think about, below are some questions to ask yourself and the therapist you are interested in working with. I hope you find this helpful and feel more comfortable and confident in choosing a therapist.
(I’m not suggesting you ask ALL of the questions, just the ones that feel important to you!)
Asking Yourself:
What I am hoping to get out of therapy?
What are some goals I have for myself?
What are the top 3 skills/traits I’d like (or think I’d like) in a therapist?
If I’ve worked with other therapists, what qualities or skills did they have that worked for me or didn’t work for me?
Do I need a therapist who is comfortable really challenging me, or do I want a softer challenger?
Am I ready for change?
Get the Practicals:
Cost of session
Cancellation policy
Length of session
Frequency of sessions
General availability/ open appointment times
Do you offer 24/7 crisis support?
*Most therapists will have this information available on their website, so please be sure to find out what information you can beforehand to maximize the time you have for your initial consult!
Some Basics:
Education, Credentials, how long have you been practicing?
What type of therapist are you?
What modalities/styles of therapy do you use?
How long do your clients usually work with you before graduating?
What kind of experience do you have with my needs?
What types of clients/issues do you typically work with?
Do you seek supervision or peer consultation? How often?
How will we assess my progress?
What does success/progress mean to you?
What can I expect working with you?
How should I prepare for the first session?
A little deeper:
What’s your philosophy about therapy and healing?
What’s your style- are you more directive or more guiding?
What’s your approach to working with…
Are you influenced by any other practices?
Does spirituality play any role in your work?
What can I expect working with you?
Why are you passionate about the work you do?
What led you to become a therapist?
What other experiences/skills do you have that you influence your work?
If reading these questions makes you feel like you’re preparing for an interview- you kinda are. Except, YOU get to ask the questions that matter most to you! And if you’re not totally sure what matters yet, that’s ok too! If you don’t get “the feeling” when talking to a potential therapist, then do a couple of “interviews” and TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS!